FULFILL PROMISES YOU MAKE TO YOURSELF
Here are some examples (from my own life). I am going to loss 20 lbs., this month, this is my last cigarette--for sure, I am going to exercise every morning from now on, no more sweets, etc.
There is a common theme is all these affirmations. They expect a lot, some were 100% or nothing. So what did I do, I FAILED! I let myself down. Over and over again.
I had the best of intentions, yet most of the time I FAILED. This was recorded by my ego, so the next time I tried something I always heard "Sure you said that before, and look what happened". And I knew the voice was right.
Until, I discovered a trick. I started only committing to projects I knew I could do, and would do, no more. And you know what, I succeeded every time! My life changed! I felt so good. And, I was fulfilling my dreams.
Example: I wanted to get the hardwood floors redone in my house. Instead of committing to getting it done (I had been thinking about this for a year already!) I made a commitment to call some professionals and get a phone estimate within one week. Well, not only did I call and get the phone estimate, I had set up an appointment for someone to come to my home to examine the floors. I had set a goal and not only did I attain it, I was a super achiever.
I really got it. I now set small and attainable goals and I always succeed. Of course there is an option to achieve more, but that is now an option. (Another upside, less stress.)
I now "keep my word" to myself. NO more sense of guilt or failure. And it was so simple. In fact I overlooked it for years opting to "struggle", and try so hard.
☻By setting small attainable goals the hardwood floors were refinished in one month
Mary Kay Buttery, 2005